Being a parent could be the greatest challenge in your life. This is especially true for parents that have kids growing up way too fast. As we watch our kids grow, we will observe that they become more and more conscious on what people and even other kids would have to say about them. During this particular phase, our kids find it very important to be called a “cool” kid. Suddenly, your kids are embarrassed whenever you accompany them in school or in other places. Their image matters to them a lot. They do all of these for the popularity they get in school.
If your child is one of them, you have to be aware of the fact that it is very tough to be a kid. In this article, allow me to share with you some tips that you may use as your guide when your kids become too obsessed with being cool.
1. You have to understand that this is normal.
This may be hard to believe at first but the best solution to this dilemma is to let our children be. As adults, we understand the fact that being popular and being cool means very little to us. But you have to understand that your kids are not yet matured thinkers. The same thing can be said when we were children.
It will benefit you and your kid a a lot if you just stay calm and let him be as he deals with this tough part of his life. Give him the things he is desperate for provided you have the budget for it. But of course, it is not advisable that you go beyond your budget just to give your kid the schoolyard credibility he hungers for. For as long as your kid does not demand or becomes too obsessed on buying the things he likes just to fit in and become one of the cool kids in school, then just let him be because this is normal.
2. Tell them what really matters.
In the event that your child goes too far and he is starting to lose perspective, help him by simply letting him know the things that really matter. It is never wise to discourage them, instead, tell them that it is their actions and attitude that really makes a difference if they want to feel accepted. Let them know the importance of being friendly and kind and that it is not our clothes or things that makes us cool/ popular.
3. Take time to talk to them.
Communicating with our kids can solve most if not all of the problems we have on them. Tell them that they are very fortunate to have a family that feeds them, gives them shelter, and cares for them each and every day. Communicate well with your kid so he does not resent you by not giving him what he likes.